Let the child love you for who you are and not for what you provide or buy them. There is nothing wrong with occasional or surprise gift. But do not enter into a habit of giving him things every time the child visits you. The child should remember the happy moments spent together. Children need the love of both parents. Do not give untoward remarks about the other parent. Do not involve them in the middle of a tug of war. Love your child, show affection in your behaviour, talk and try to be a good parent. Do not compete with the other parent or do not get threatened by the other parent. Real love cannot be bought, sold or manipulated. Always keep in touch with the child, meet him / her regularly and maintain communication.