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Vision

A child is very impressionable. Whatever he sees & experiences, he learns. In his childhood if he experience love, joy, truth, kindness; he learns these qualities & if he experience violence, indifference, lies, he learns such evils.

Whatever a child experiences in his childhood, he return the same to the society. When we slap a child to make her do her home work or to switch off TV or to keep the classroom calm, the child learn violence and later he returns the same to the society.

If we want peace and non violence in the society, we have to make children experience non violence and peace.

Parenting for Peace (P4P) is a movement, which works for the parents & teachers to enable them to provide a joyful and loving childhood to the children. For this P4P movement tries to provide training & guidance to the teacher & parents.

Direction

In a meeting of P4P some members suggested that rather than organising training programmes in different schools sporadically, we should work in a focused manner in few schools and try to give everything that we want to give through P4P and then measure its impact.

Let us discuss:

  • Will there be many schools that are willing to take such imputs regularly for a longer duration?
  • If yes, then too if we work for 10 15 20 schools, our scope will become limited.
  • Even though we get very good result. If doesn’t mean that all schools will get ready to work for P4P.
  • Type of work we are doing now is like spraying seeds of P4P.
  • Spreading P4P seeds for in the whole world is also a great task in itself.
  • There are numerous parents who don’t know that they have to take a lot of care in nurturing a child.
  • If parents get aware of this; they can bring change in the life of their children.
  • We are doing this work, doesn’t mean that we cannot do long term work, our work on suicide prevention, dyslexia, parenting FAQs etc are of that kind. We will discuss in details in relevant section.
  • This document of Action Plan 2015 will guide in our all aspects of working.

P4P (Seed)

  • Through various media people are gradually coming to know about P4P and we are getting opportunity to introduce P4P to people. We should use these opportunities effectively.
  • If we get only 10 min. Time we can deliver the message by presenting a skit.
  • Try to get the opportunity to present P4P program out of state or anywhere in the state.
  • If we get 2 hours and if there is a possibility creation of a new team, one member from core team will go.
  • Otherwise prepare the organiser to introduce P4P.
  • Prepare them to have full introduction program of 2 hours.

P4P Teams

  • The objective of P4P is to bring world peace through a loving and joyful childhood
  • For this we want to enable parents & teachers. Therefore our main objective is to train parents and teachers.
  • This work is being carried out by people having faith in this idea.
  • We want to make a team of P4P in each & every city or town of the world to spread this message I the whole world.
  • You can also make your team and joint this mission

How will you make a P4P team?

  • Gather the people of your area, introduce P4P to them, provide information about P4P & invite them to join this movement.
  • Note down the email id, & contact no. of interested people. Fix a first meeting in next week, inform them about the date, time and venue.
  • Tell them to invite their friends in the next meeting.
  • Make 2 whatsapp group of these people 1) For communication & 2) To send inspirational messages; so that inspirational messages do not disturb important communication. For example,P4P Dharmapur communication, P4P Dharampur Inspiration.
  • Use logo of P4P for group photo.
  • Send the messages of first meeting on communication group.
  • Distribute different responsibilities to different group members in the first meeting so that they have opportunity to contribute.
  • Sometime after the team stars working, select coordinator. Remember that it is not a post or position it is a responsibility.

Common Responsibilities:

  1. Whats app Admin.
  2. Contact schools & get invitation to conduct training programs.
  3. Working as a trainer,
  4. Prepare a report of the program.
  5. Perform skit.
  6. Prepare Presentation.
  • Once the team becomes functional there should be people who can take up these roles.

(it is prepared in Gujarati, will be translated in Engllish)

Other ways to make a team:

  • The existing team will create a team in neighbouring town using their contacts.
  • In schools program give information & introduction of P4P & tell the interested people who want to join P4P, to stay back. After the program, talk to them and prepare a team.

Making a team strong & efficient:

  • Organise a Training of Trainers (TOT) for team members so that they can act as trainers in parents’/teachers’ training.
  • Internal training by the team members to all the members on weekly/fortnightly basis.
  • To become a member of P4P Contact : Vaibhav Parikh – 9099010677

What are the advantages of working in team?

  • Strength and capabilities of each other will compliment one another.
    For example: one member is a good speaker but he doesn’t have contacts in schools to get opportunity to train people but the other member has such contacts. The later will get invitation for the training the first one will deliver the training.
  • A single individual may get tired or due to some personal reasons or circumstances he is unable to do social work, in this situation other team member can sustain thework.
  • Continuity of the work is maintained even if each member contribute time and energy as per his convenience.

Media policy

  • The objective of P4P project is spreading the mission
  • To make people aware so that they take advantage of P4P activities.
  • To get opportunity to work ( to get invitation for training programs).
  • Keep away from individual publicity.
  • Don’t forget that the objective is to provide children a loving and joyful childhood. Be careful that priority should be given to the main objective of P4P, not to the individual interest.
  • Use media to inform people about the program, before program so that they can take the benefit of this. Inform them through media after the program so they can join the P4P mission by becoming team members.
  • Keep yourself away from the false pride (conceit) that you are doing a great work.
  • We don’t do programs for photo shooting.
  • Publicity should not be done in the cost of values and ethics.
  • It is not a platform to become famous.

P4P PUBLIC RELATION:

  • In each team there should be a small team of public relation.
  • If there are from the media or are connected with media, they can take up this role.
  • The function of Public relation should also be performed with above mentioned ethics and values.

P4P TECHNOLOGY TEAM:

  • The publicity of P4P should be done with the help of technology to enhance its effect.

PROGRAM FOR PEOPLE OF VARIOUS CLASSES:

P4P Media Program:

  • Organise, P4P introduction program for the representatives of media. Choose the subject of their interest.

Objectives:

  • They and their children can get the benefit of our activities as parents and children.
  • They can come to know about P4P and if anyone wishes he/she can join the team.
  • They can cover the activities of P4P in the media.
    In the same way we can organise program for paediatricians psychiatrists, psychologists through, their associations/organisations.

P4P Worker / Volunteer:

  1. Various classes and age groups can join P4P and work for this noble cause.
  2. For example : Senior Citizens can utilize their free time and experience and can make a huge contribution and get satisfaction of doing something for the society.
  3. Housewives can also give their free time.
  4. Teachers can utilize their capabilities.
  5. Retired teachers can utilize experience and free time for this noble cause.
  6. BRC/CRC (The officers of Education Department) can also do this work as a part of their duty.
  7. Retired officers of education dept contribute a lot.
  8. People like psychologists, psychiatrists paediatricians, PTC, B.ED, college professors etc also can contribute their skills for this noble work.
  9. Women can be contacted through organisations like Akhil Hind Mahila Parishad.

What can a volunteer do?

  1. Join the existing P4P team of the city.
  2. Create a new P4P team in the city.
  3. Provide training as a trainer.
  4. Prepare training material
  5. Translate the ready training material in other languages.
  6. Work as a counsellor
  7. Start a counselling centre.
  8. Work as a volunteer in the mobile office of P4P, write letters, reports, contact people, prepare design, editing news letter etc.
  9. Present skit / drama during training programs.
  10. Get the invitation from schools and institutions so that teachers and parents can be given training.
  11. To create opportunity for P4P programs in social gathering like mass marriages, kathas etc.
  12. Show the children film to school children.
  13. Make a P4P school
  14. Become P4P teacher
  15. Become P4P parents and make others also

What a P4P volunteer can get?

  1. He can become capable of bringing up his children properly.
  2. He can improve his behaviour with his students.
  3. Gets satisfaction doing a social work.
  4. His leadership quality as well as team spirit will be enhanced.
  5. Can play a role in bringing about a social change.
  6. His self development.

P4P Young Volunteers:

  • Young volunteer’s time, energy and efficiency can be utilized for this movement which will be helpful in their self development. They can overcome their stage fear and their self expression will improve.

P4P Internship:

  • Internship or project work is part of college curriculam.
  • These students can be given P4P activity.
  • Training for parents and teachers.
  • Study of their behaviour with the children.
  • Study the mentality parents of slum area and study of condition of children there in.
  • Study violence on children and its impact.

P4P Partner:

    Organisations having vision like P4P can be the partner of P4P to get the following benefits:

  • It may create opportunity for P4P to work in the areas where right now it is not able to work remarkably.
  • The pace of work of these organisations can be increased.
  • P4P can provide guidance to such organisations.
  • P4P can provide platform to connect such organisations.
  • P4P becomes capable of doing similar work that is being carried out by such organisation.
  • A synergy (1+1 = 11) can be created among such organisation and P4P.

For example :

  • Hu chhu Jyotirdhar movement has ability to train people.P4P teams have ability of creating opportunity for training. Both can workTogether and can give qualitative training programs.
  • Present skit / drama during training programs.
  1. In collaboration with SHAISHAV (Bhavnagar), the model of balsena can be expanded.
  • P4P can guide the organisations like Vatsalya Education and Charitable trust (Bardoli) that works for orphan children. It can guide it so that in other places too some organisations take up this cause.
  • P4P can enter into partnership with pediatric, psychiatric associations, adolescent health academy etc.

P4P SKIT:

  • A skit can convey a message very effectively.
  • Good skits should be recorded with two video cameras so as to create a quality video to be made available to all.
  • Vaibhav and viraj has to prepare anP4P introduction skit of 15 minutes.

P4P FILM:

  • Make 1 to 3 minutes film presenting different aspects of parenting.

P4P POEM:

  • Write a poem expressing P4P idea effectively.
  • Write poems expressing different aspects of parenting.
  • The direct message that can be understood by all is preferred to indirect message that can be understood by few.

P4P ADVERTISEMENT:

  • The advertisement of 20 – 30 seconds with clear message.

P4P STALL:

  • Set up a P4P stall in Educational programs, Book fair etc.
  • Grab the opportunity of introducing P4P in social gatherings, marriages etc by setting up a P4P stall there.
  • P4P material can be displayed on a table in parents program.
  • This can also be done in social gatherings.

How to start a stall?

  • Meet with organizers and tell them about P4P and request them to provide a stall and also present a request letter.
  • Giving letter is important as the oral information is forgotten and not communicated to the responsible person.
  • A copy of letter should be sent to the office of organisers so that so that even if the main person misplaces the letter, the request is processed by his office.
  • If meeting with organizer is not possible, send a letter.
  • Sometimes a simple letter brings result without a personal follow up.

The Information provided at stall

  1. Give brochure of P4P to the visitors
  2. The objective of P4P, the functions of P4P and information of website of P4P.
  3. Those who are willing to join P4P, make them fill up a form.
  4. Provide more information in the areas of their interest.

Arrangement at the stall

  1. P4P member should be present all the time at the stall.
  2. Young volunteer may support them.
  3. This is an opportunity to create and train new young volunteer.

The form for stall visitors

Name :-

Telephone No :-

Email Id :-

Address :-

  1. Want to become P4P Volunteer?
  2. Want to become P4P Parents?
  3. Want to become P4P Teachers?
  4. Want to make P4P School?
  5. Want to prepare a team of P4P in his city/district?
  6. Want to join a P4P team?
  7. Want to organise a training program for parents?
  8. Want to organize a training program for teachers?
  9. Want to join P4P to show children film in the schools of his city?
  10. Want to give his contribution in any other way, please explain.

P4P BRANDING:

Various days can be used for promoting P4P:

  1. Children week 14-20 November
  2. Father’s day 3rd Sunday of June.
  3. Mother’s day 2nd Sunday of May
  4. Peace day 21st September
  5. Valentine day 14th February
  6. Mental Health day
  7. World Parents’ day 1st June
  8. Women’s day 8th March

P4P Theme Song:

A theme song should be prepared in different languages and recorded with music.

P4P Branding Ideas:

  1. Logo
  2. Same design to be used for banner, standee, invitation card etc.
  3. P4P logo should be used as what’s app and email picture.
  4. Banner
  5. Standee
  6. Brochure
  7. P4P message (short what’s app message promoting website)
  8. P4P screen saver
  9. P4P Design Team:

  10. A central design team that can prepare all the designs and distribute to all the teams.
  11. Volunteer can contribute by making design sitting at his/ her own place.

Long term work

Work for children with learning disability ( commonly known as dyslexia):

  • Approx 15 percentage children are having learning disability.
  • These children have issue in Writing, Reading and Counting.
  • Parents and Teachers believe that, they do it deliberately.
  • They give them physical and mental punishment.
  • By giving information regarding Dislaxiya, attitude of parents and teacher towards childrens will improve.
  • Such children disturb whole class.
  • Counselling of such students in every school will prove a remarkable step towards peaceful upbringing of child.
  • Right now we have presentation for awareness of parents and teachers. The training material for counsellor is being prepared.

Suicide Prevention:

  • Percentage of suicide is not less among the childrens. Many more children think of committing suicide.
  • Exams or exam results are not the only reason for suicide.
  • Whatever are the reasons, suicide prevention is an important work for P4P.
  • P4P team has prepared presentations and book for Suicide prevention.
  • District Education Officer, Surat has published this book.
  • 1200 School Administrators and principals of Surat district have given training In presence of Honerable Education Minister Shri Bhupendra Sinh Chudasama
  • This kind of training should be done in every district.
  • Parents (specially of students studying in 10th and 12th ) should also be given such training.
  • At the end of training session providing books would be beneficial.
  • Surat team intends to prepare module for Suicide prevention module for children.
  • After that students will also be given such training.
  • 24 x 7 mental health and suicide prevention helpline “Jeevan Aastha” was launched by Surat Rural district police under Suraksha Setu Society scheme. (Advertisement aids are present – toll free No – 18602662345)

Child Right Training

  • Module for the child Rights.
  • Parents awareness.
  • Teachers’ awareness.
  • Awareness of all the stake holders including chlldren.
  • Activity based awareness program.
  • Partnership with the project like Balsena Of Shaishav.
  • Balsena should be started at every place by practising it.

P4P Peace Module/ Peace Activity

  • Prepare Peace Module
  • Peace games propagated by shaishav Bhavnagar should be propogated.
  • Peace Activity should be prepared.

Mental health week

  1. For Parents – To prepare Module on parent’s mental issues and behavioural problems and deseases, which affect upbringing of children.
  2. Organise Parents awareness Programme
  3. For Children – teenager:
  4. 12.Prevent sucide in chidren by making them aware about their behavioural issues

Premarital Counselling for Youth:

  • Awareness training programme for premarital, marriage and parenting.
  • They can become trainers and train their friends.
  • To spread information through Skit.

Civic Sense Training

  • Civic sense training to children.
  • Prepare presentation for being a responsible citizen, prepare module for Civic Sense, Traffic Rules etc.

Parenting FAQs

  • To prepare frequently asked questions and answers for parents and teachers.
  • Prepare list of questions asked in parenting training programmes. Prepare answers and put them on web site.
  • Many times a question is asked differently but it has already been cover in the existing FAQs. This can be taken in to account to avoid duplication.
  • These Questioner may help increase the capacity of P4P trainers.

P4P Children Film Project

  • P4P is an idea in which any organisation or person can join.
  • Film Society of Surat (FSS) is also a active member of it.
  • Believe that by they can give loving and joyful childhood to children by promoting their growth by showing them good films.
  • FSS and Surat Municipal Educational Board has singned an MOU.
  • The children film society has agreed to give films for this project. The cost is borne by the Surat Municipal School Board.
  • FSS give training to teachers as to how to show and review the films so that children get learning.
  • Every school should try to show 12 movies a year but but not less than 5.
  • Give proper Report of it to FSS in this format:
  • Sr.No. School Name Date Shown Movies No. Of Student Teacher Name
  • Maximum city’s should join it.
  • Trusts having schools can also sign an MOU with FSS.

Adopted Children’s Upbringing

  • Improve capacity of organisation that adopt such children.
  • Training for wardens who are working in such adoption centres.
  • Counselling of such children.
  • P4P Adoption Scheme.

P4P Ummeed:

  • Children of slum area sufferes as the parents are poor, illiterate and addicted to bad habits.
  • These child do not get enough care and nutrition
  • They have to work during a time where they should play and learn. Child labours are also tortured physically.
  • World peace is a distant dream without giving these children loving and joyful childhood.
  • No remarkable work is done in this field. Little bit work is being done in terms of education of children etc but almost nothing is being done for capacity building of parents.
  • Children‘s will get continuous benefit if parents are made aware.
  • P4P has to go a long way for this. We hope that people who are working in it, or want to work or capable to work should join with us.
  • Together we will be able give loving and joyful childhood to large number of such children.

Suggested work:

  • Make parents addiction free.
  • Make them aware about their role as parents.
  • Children’s not going school should be counselled to attend school.
  • Convince parents for that.
  • Child beggars should be helped to go to school.
  • Child labours should be freed and helped to go to school.
  • To create large number of volunteers to work in this field.

P4P Ummeed for Parents

  • 10 teams
  • 3000 parents

P4P Ummeed for Children

  • 10 teams
  • 400 parents

Bal Bhavan

  • Balbhawan can become centre of excellence for children, parents and teachers.
  • Some P4P friends are trying to start Bal Bhawan in Surat.
  • P4P teams should try to start Bal Bhawan in their city.
  • For more information contact Shri Sunilbhai Jain (9374712867)

P4P Parent Helpline

  • Childline, a helpline for children, women helpline (1095, 181) etc. are available.
  • But there is no helpline for parents.
  • Some P4P members suggested that we should start parent helpline.
  • We can do that only after having systematic arrangements – infrastructure, paid and committed counsellors etc.

P4P Child line:

  • Child’s helpline (1098) is runned by NGO.
  • P4P is not NGO so it can’t get to run childline.
  • But NGO connected with P4P can take up childline of one district this helpline and run it sucessfully.
  • The present child line is mostly a reactive help line.
  • When child asks for help it reach over there but proactively they don’t take up work like awareness about child rights etc ultimately to give loving and joyful childhood to children. For example physical punishment to children is very common in our homes and child lines do very little about this.
  • P4P wants to change this.
  • If P4P runs child line then it can work effectively for this.
  • Work of parent counselling can also be done through P4p run child line and no separate parent help line is required.
  • Even then if there is a need for separate parents helpline, P4P can start this help line only after running child line successfully fulfilling above objectives.

P4P Research and Development

  • To take up research project with the help of universities and colleges.

P4P Library

  • Make available all the books, cds, films etc for parenting at one place.
  • P4P can run such library according to their convenience.
  • At least a small such library should be there for every such team so that these resources are available for members’ training.

P4P “Dhyan Vipassana”

  • It is a 2500 years old meditation technique reinvented by Gautam Budhha.
  • The first step of Vipassana meditition is Aanapan meditition.
  • Aanapan (Aaan + Aapan) means be aware about your incoming and outgoing breath.
  • With eyes closed, experience your every single breath.
  • By doing this, a person can have mental peace.
  • If children do this every day for 10 minutes: It will
    1. Improve concentration
    2. Give mental peace.
    3. Bring down reactions like anger, irritation, crying etc.
  • Teen agers are very much benefitted by it.
  • In this age they should study but they have friction with their parents, friends, they get disturbed with behaviour of their friends, misuse information and communication technology. This affects their future badly.
  • Aanpan meditation helps them to have control over this.
  • Help them in having better relations with parents.
  • Therefore, it prevents violence with children
  • It increases family peace.
  • Indirectly P4P’s work is done.
  • There are examples where due to Aanpan School’s Board results improved from 40% to 100%.
  • Children do Anap;an medition in all the schools of Maharatra during school prayer.

Vipassana

  • Vipassana means to see in a special way.
  • In the 10 days camp of Vipassana meditation Aanpan meditation is done for first three days.
  • Because of which one experiences minor sensations (itching, pain, feeling cold, wet, hot, vibration etc ) on the body
  • Minor sensations that are generally not noticed by us are experienced as our mind become more subtle.
  • All inputs enter in our body through five senses – eyes, ear, nose, skin and tongue.
  • Our brain analyses it.
  • If the input is analysed to be good, there are subtle desirable sensations on the body.
  • Our subconscious mind asks for more and more of such sensation. In spiritual language it is called raga.
  • If the input is analysed by brain to be not good, painful gross sensations are generated on the body.
  • The subconscious mind generates contempt for it and say it doesn’t want it any more. This is called dwesha or contempt.
  • For example when musical sound hits our ears.
  • The mind analyses it.
  • Desirable sensations occur.
  • Subconscious mind asks for more. This is a reaction of raga.
  • The abusive words hit our ears.
  • Mind analyses it.
  • Unwanted sensations occur on the body.
  • Unconscious mind reacts, “No, No I don’t want it.” This is dwesha or contempt.
  • Thus every moment our subconscious mind does reaction of raga or dwesha.
  • The unconscious mind understands only the language of experience.
  • In 10 day meditation camp, 7 days are given for Vipassana meditation.
  • Here the person practices seeing sensations on his body without reacting to it – without analysing it, without creating feeling of like or dislike or raga or dwesha for it.
  • This trains our mind to be non reactive to the sensations occurring on the body.
  • Now when something wanted or unwanted happens, the mind doesn’t react to the sensation created by this input. (the extent it used to do earlier before the meditation)
  • Reaction irritates us , gives us pain. This creates sankharas that creates out future of the next birth.
  • Forget our future, our day to day reactions give us pain, spoils our relations and give mental pain.
  • The experts of emotional intelligent say that if you take a little pause between stimuli and response it will be an emotionally intelligent behaviour. This will help you having good relations with people.
  • But how to have this little pause?
  • Vipassana give this pause and reactions gradually decrease.
  • If parents and teachers do vipassana, they will automatically become calm , they will have better relations with children.
  • This will reduce violence agains children and will help in creating a peaceful society.

Activity:

  • P4P teams take up the work of teaching Anapana meditation to the children.
  • They should organise Vipassana introduction for parents and teachers.
  • Have self experience by attending vipassana camp and doing vipassana meditation regularly.
  • Parents will see positive change in the behaviour of their children and they will be motivated to go for vipassana meditation. This will make them calm. This will reduce the violence against children.
  • Please contact following Vipassana centre to organise introduction to vipassana for parents and teachers or anapana for children.
  • Rajkot 0281-2220861,2782550
  • Bada(katch) 0283-4273303,273304
  • Dhodka 9426419397,271429469
  • Mogar 0265-2341323
  • Dhumaj 253315
  • Mahesana 0276-2254634,253315
  • navsari 02637291100

Note: If you have any problem Please contact Narendrabhai 9825162226 (Surat)

Automated systems:

  • P4P school, P4P teachers, P4P parents, P4P Parent association, P4P ladies club etc are concepts of automated systems that ensures that P4P work is done in auto mode.
  • Swami narayan sect , swadhyay pariwar , Gayatri pariwar etc communities are such type self managed organisation.

P4P school

  1. Teachers together will take oath that they will not impose physical punishment to the children.
  2. Teachers together will take oath that they will not commit subtle (mental) violence with children.
  3. (mental or subtle violence means not to hurt students with words , make them stand in the classroom or outside, make them hold their toes with their hand, comparing with others etc due to which they feel humiliated)
  4. An announcement will be made in prayer every 3 months that no physical or mental violence will be committed with children.
  5. If this rule is broken by any teacher then the teacher will say sorry to the child and will promise that he will try his best so that this is not repeated again.
  6. Parents will be given one hour training every month. If every month is not possible then 2 hours training will be given once in two months, yearly 12 hours training will be given. In every training will take the same oath not to commit physical or mental violence with their children as under:
    • They will not punish children physically or mentally
    • They will not insult them
    • They will talk to children about this every 15 days.
    • If they break this promise they will say sorry to the child and will promise that he will try his best so that this is not repeated again..
  7. Each and every teacher will read at least 2 books on parenting and child development.
  8. Teachers will identify talents other than reading, writing and counting in at least 10% of the students and help them for nurturing this talent. They will talk to their parents about this and consell them to help to nurture this talent in their children.
  9. For learning disability in students , school will arrange a 2hours training .in which each and every teacher and parents of weak students will take part.
  10. Class teachers will visit home of every student of his class and talk to the parents.
  11. Every teacher will try to de-addict at least 5 parents.
  12. This chart will be displayed in the school so that it is visible to all.
  13. Teacher’s own children are included as child.

P4P teacher

My students are my children. They are very dear to me and I wish to nurture them in all possible ways.

  1. The P4P Teachers will take oath that they will not impose physical punishment to the children. This
  2. Teachers will take oath that they will not commit subtle (mental) violence with children.
  3. (mental or subtle violence means not to hurt students with words , make them stand in the classroom or outside, make them hold their toes with their hand, comparing with others etc due to which they feel humiliated)
  4. Note: This oath will be taken in presence of their life partner, friends or fellow teacher.

  5. An announcement will be made in class room, every 3 months that no physical or mental violence will be committed with children.
  6. If this rule is broken, then the teacher will say sorry to the child and will promise that he will try his best so that this is not repeated again.
  7. All parents of his class will be given one hour training every month. If every month is not possible then 2 hours training will be given once in two months, yearly 12 hours training will be given. In every training will take the same oath not to commit physical or mental violence with their children as under:
    • They will not punish children physically or mentally
    • They will not insult them
    • They will talk to children about this every 15 days.
    • If they break this promise they will say sorry to the child and will promise that he will try his best so that this is not repeated again..
  8. The P4P teacher will read at least 2 books on parenting and child development.
  9. The P4p Teachers will identify talents other than reading, writing and counting in at least 10% of the students and help them for nurturing this talent. They will talk to their parents about this and consell them to help to nurture this talent in their children.
  10. For learning disability in students, the teacher will arrange 2hours training. in which will invite each and every teacher and parents of weak students to take part.
  11. He will visit home of every student of his class and talk to the parents.
  12. He will try to de-addict at least 5 parents.
  13. This chart will be displayed in the class so that it is visible to all.

Teacher’s own children are included in the word ‘child.’

P4P Parents:

My child is very dear to me and I wish to nurture him/her well, therefore:

  1. Parents together will take oath in presence of their children every 15 days that they will not impose physical punishment them.
  2. Parents together will take oath in presence of their children every 15 days that they will not commit subtle (mental) violence with children.
  3. (mental or subtle violence means not to hurt a child, close him in bathroom, not to give food, send him out of home and not to permit him to come back in home, compare him with other children etc due to which they feel humiliated)
  4. An announcement will be made every 15 days in the that no physical or mental violence will be committed with children.
  5. If this rule is broken by any parent then the parent will say sorry to the child and will promise that he will try his best so that this is not repeated again.
  6. The parents will take 6 hours parenting training in a year.
  7. Each parent or both the parents together (preferably together) will read at least 2 books on parenting and child development.
  8. Parents will try to identify talents other than reading, writing and mathematical and talk to the teachers to motivate them to nurture it in the child.
  9. Parents will meet his child’s teacher 6 times in a year.
  10. Parents will give up addiction, if any, for the benefit of children (tobacco, liquor etc)
  11. Parents will read at least one book every 3 months with their children or the children will read and they will listen.
  12. Parents will acknowledge and accept the child the way it is and the way it is not. They will do acknowledgement exercise every month in presence of all the members of the family where they will identify good thing about the child and acknowledge him/her for the same.
  13. Parents will play with the child at least one in a week.
  14. Parents will walk with child at least 4 times in a month or will do the activities chosen by the child.
  15. P4P parents will try to make at least 5 P4P parents evry month. {This will help them adhere to this more consciously)
  16. The P4P parents chart will displayed in the home in a place where it is visible to all.

Support structure

  • Every P4P school, teacher and parents have to submit the monitoring reports to the P4P Monitor and Mentor of their region in the following format.
  • After examining the monitor will issue certificate to that effect.
  • In case the school, teacher is parents is not adhering to the code of conduct for them, the monitor will mentor and support him/her.
  • For keeping it in to existence following nurturing activities should be carried out.

P4P ladies Team

  • The ladies club, kitty party etc meet regularly.
  • They can use this forum for enhancing their parenting capabilities.
  • The P4P team can help them do so.

P4P Parents group/association:

  • In this, both the parents will be take part.
  • They work for their capacity building.

P4P Structure:

P4P office:

Main Tasks:

  • Communication
  • Email communication
  • To prepare newsletter.
  • To contact people
  • Different people work for these tasks from their place at their time voluntarily – mobile office

Communication:

What’s app Communication:

Communication group:

For example: P4P Dharampur Communication group

  • Message relating to communication should be passed.
  • No other messages so that they don’t disturb the communication of important messages.
  • No personal or business communication.
  • Inspiration Group

    For example: P4P Dharampur inspiration group

  • Inspirational messages only on the subject of parenting
  • No other inspirational message.
  • No personal or business communication.
  • Email communication:

    For example: P4PDharmpur@gmail.com

    Google group: P4PDharampur@googlegrop.com

  • So that the message is sent to all the members with a single click.
  • Only one person should be responsible for this communication.

Documentation and Reporting:

P4P Newsletter

  • For guiding teams.
  • Work done by team inspires others.
  • Other people come to know about the activities done by P4P and get inspired to join mission.
  • It creates a record of work done by us, that can be used in future.

Monthly Report

  • Monthly report of the work done by each team should be prepared in Gujarati and English and should reach by 5th on the following month, so it can be included in the newsletter.
  • Remember that it is not possible for P4P officer to translate and include it in the newsletter.
  • If we don’t receive your report, your work will not become part of the newsletter and we will lose an opportunity to inspire others.
  • You are suppose to send the monthly, quarterly, half yearly and yearly report by 5th of following month in the following format.
Sr.No. Date Time venue Village/city name subject Speaker’s name Type of audience Remarks
Parents teachers other

Recording Of lectures:

  • The lecture on important topics, effective speakers should be recorded, if possible.
  • Audio recording is more effective then video because it can be listened while travelling/working etc.
  • Audio clip can be easily separated from video recording.
  • Recording will be very useful to people if uploaded on website or U-tube.Audio recording is very easy; it can be recorded even in a mobile.

Recording of P4P Skit

  • Skit conveys our message very effectively in short time.
  • Good skit if possible, should be recorded with two cameras.
  • Vaibhav and Viraj should record 15 minute skit for P4P’s introduction.

P4P Roles:

  1. Coordinator:
    • Leadership
    • Direction and guidance
    • To keep the team together.
    • A respectable person who can prevail over in case of dispute.
  2. Co-coordinator:
    • Same as coordinator
  3. Trainers’ Team:
    • Minimum 5 trainers
    • Internal training of the team members.
    • Training parents/teachers etc.
  4. Training Material Development Team:
    • Minimum 2 persons
    • Prepare new training material.
    • Collect material prepared by members should be sent to all the team members all the teams through core team.
    • Collect material prepared by core team and distribute it to all the team members.
  5. Reporting and communication:
    • Act as administrator of what’s app group.
    • Create team email address and make communication.
    • Convey instruction received from core team to all the members.
    • Convey main points of the editorial of the monthly newsletter to all the members through what’s app/ email and
    • Read the editorial during the team meeting.
    • Prepare monthly and other reports and send them to core team.
  6. Medial Relations:
    • Relation with media.
  7. Public Relations/Expansion:
    • Promotion of P4P
    • Organise P4P programs by contacting institutes/people.
    • Organise programmes by contacting institutes to add new members in P4P
    • To bring in to the team, socially active members from the society.
    • Create new teams in other places (towns and villages around)
  8. Support and monitoring:
    • Team members need support to sustain them in the team.
    • To make members aware about their achievement and help them to acknowledge them.
    • Monitoring and support role so that team members fulfil the promised work. Ask for report, remind them and support them so that they are able to fulfil their promises.
    • To make members aware about their abilities so that they are able to take up big tasks in accordance with their abilities
  9. Skit Team:
    • To perform skit.
    • Write skit and make them available to other members/teams.
    • Get skit recorded and get them uploaded on the website/ make it available to other teams.
    • Bring in to P4P teams the people who can perform skits.
  10. Design Team:
    • To prepare designs.
    • To get them approved from core team to maintain uniformity.
    • Make newly prepared good designs to all the teams through core team.
  11. Technology Team:
    • To use technology to fulfil P4P goals.
    • To support public relation team for promotion of P4P.
  12. Volunteer Development:
    • Organise training for the development of the volunteer members.
    • Make suggestion to the team and core team for that.
    • To inform members about the training opportunities available within P4P and outside.

Volunteer Development:

Trainer’s Training

  • Inorder to increase capacity of people working in P4P, TOT (Training of Trainers) should be organized.
  • One/two days TOT can be organised.
  • 6 to 8 topics should be covered in one day.

Training Subject

  • Effect of family system.
  • Substance abuse
  • Anger
  • Sexual abuse of children.
  • Stress management
  • Teen age parenting.
  • Behavioural change.
  • Prevention of subtle violence in the society through parenting.
  • Parenting styles.
  • Time spent with children.
  • Communication with children.
  • Effect of media on children.
  • Food and nutrition of children.
  • Values
  • Discipline
  • All round development of children.

For whom the training should be organized?

  • For P4P team members
  • For those willing to join the team
  • For those who may join the team.
  • For those who are interested to organise such program in their school, institute.
  • For trainers who are willing to give part of their time voluntarily for parents/ teachers training.

Note :- P4P training is organised free of cost. No fees is to be charged for training. Actual charge of food can be taken. The hall can be provided free of cost by some organisation.

Change in volunteer’s life

  • People join P4P to give loving and joyful childhood to children.
  • They love to work for children.
  • The change in the life of volunteer will motivate them to work for this mission.
  • A person cannot work for this mission if he is not willing to work on his weaknesses.
  • There should be positive change in the person after he joins this mission.
  • To work selflessly without the expectation of money, position or fame, one need to work on self.
  • The self transformation is essential to work cohesively in a team.
  • Self development of the person will improve the quality of his contribution.
  • Therefore, volunteer development is very essential for P4P.
  • We need to organise activities that will help in self development of the volunteers and their ability to do social work.
  • This will indirectly help in his personal life. For example improved communication and confidence will help in this professional and personal life.

P4P Leadership Program:

  • P4P Leadership program has been started with this intention.
  • It has caused miracles in the life of the participants of the first batch.
  • It is 9 week program. Weekly one session of 2.5 hours.
  • Every participant takes one P4P project and one personal project.
  • The participants are helped to work on their life so that they come out of barrier that stop them to grow.
  • He will be made capable to work on any area of life and transform it.
  • To increase capability of volunteers role based training program should be organised for example :
    1. Training for a specific role for example communicator.
    2. Training for trainers
    3. Training in public relation
    4. Training as counsellor
    5. Premarital counselling training.
    6. Training to prevent suicide.
    7. Training to deal with learning disability.
    8. Skit workshop.

Community Development

  • P4P needs to emerge as a community to create pride and sense of belongingness.
  • For that we need to have annual state level convention
  • 6 monthly regional convention.
  • P4P Meet:

  • We need to organise P4P Meet to give the organisation guidance and direction.
  • P4P Picnic:

  • The members meet at a tourist place.
  • The family members also join in the picnic.
  • Do entertaining group activities.
  • If everybody agrees they may take up few work related issue and discuss.

Long term program

1. Program for dyslexia suffering children.
2. Suicide Prevention.
3. Training for children’s right.
4. P4P Peace Module/ Peace Activity.
5. Mental Health Week.

  1. For Parents.
  2. For Children Teenagers.
6. P4P youth family
7. Training for ideal citizenship.
8. Nurturing an adopted child.
9. P4P hope

  1. For Parents.
  2. For Children Teenagers.
10. Kinder Garten(BalBhavan)
11. P4P films for children project.
12 P4P parent help line.
13. P4P child line.
14 P4P invention Research.
15 P4P Library.
16 Meditation.

Self functioning organization

1. P4P School.
2. P4P Teachers.
3. P4P Parents.
4. P4P women Association.
5. P4P Parents Association.
6. P4P Arrangemernts.
7. P4P Communication.
8. P4P Email Communication
9. P4P main Office Work.
10. Monthly Report.
11. Recording of Lectures/ Presentation.
12. Recording of Skits.
13. P4P Picnic /Celebrations